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About Me:

Kali Love is my sometimes brilliant, often obnoxious, alter ego. If I’m Chuck D., she’s a bit, well…Flava Flav with hers. So to protect my career as a writer/producer/Veuve Clicquot-sipping philanthrope, I shall remain nameless. But Kali Love? There’s no telling what she'll say.

OK, so by now you may have heard that me and What’s-His-Face are no longer wearing matching outfits. But what you haven’t heard, because it surprised the heck out of me and all of my friends, is that I’m dating ONLINE. Yup. Me.

Dang, ya’ll. It’s been a hot minute. I’ve thought about you everyday. I felt so guilty about neglecting to spread the gospel of Man Taming throughout the land. And I had nightmares that you were now seeking relationship advice from some poorly-dressed, half-baked, Kali Love knock-off!

After a way long vay-cay of meditation and rejuvenation, Kali Love is back. How else do you think I can cohabitate with mere mortals (AKA men) and not nag, refrain from fixing, act like Becka, not curse people out and not smother with pillows? Truth be told, however, I had a nasty case [...]

Yep, I went. Yep, I saw Mr. President being sworn in with my own eyes. Yep, it was the most amazing experience of my life. And even more yep, I am now experiencing what I call The Obama Effect: suddenly, the world seems like utopia and instead of criticizing my fellow earthlings in [...]

In case you’ve just joined us, for a few months now, Kali Love has been sharing the Man Tamer ABC’s. Sure I could have just listed them all in one go, but growth is not just about knowledge, it’s about using what you know consistently and repeatedly until, hey, look, what-do-ya-know, it’s who you [...]

…And we’re back. If you’re just tuning in, I’m teaching ya’ll how to tame you a man! And for those who haven’t quite figured it out, this is really a not-so-cleverly disguised call to women to control the only thing you can control – YOU, so that you can be the beautiful child [...]

Just last week, we were chatting in a one-sided way about the three categories of Man Tamer communication, which were roughly: suck it up, address it immediately and be done with it, and give it some thought and figure out the very best way to address it.
And what I hope to have stressed thus far, [...]

Well, my dears, after a brief hiatus, it’s time to get back on the program. The Man Taming program, that is. If you’ve been journeying with me for the past two installments, you know that I’ve told you in about three different languages what NOT to say if you want to attract and [...]

I don’t need to conjure up images of men doing the Martin Lawrence and running wild through the streets at night, or quote statistics about the millions of cute/educated/well-groomed/paid women whose ring finger is arthritic with neglect. You’ve heard it all before. But what you haven’t heard, my dears, are the ancient African Asiatic secrets [...]

You know, I really didn’t want to do this–it’s so early in our loving, but somewhat anonymous relationship, but I have to.
Ladies…this might hurt a little.
I’ve been perusing the other blogs written by so many brilliant brothers and sisters, not to mention causing a ruckus in about twenty different countries for 30-ish years [...]