ADVICE/EDUCATION

COACHING CONFIDENCE

What an amazing feeling I just experienced I thought, as I wiped the sweat from my brow and headed for the exit door. I just wrapped up one of the most fulfilling experiences I’ve had in a while as the guest speaker at a local school in the City of Boston. I was there to speak to the 5th grade class as part of a program called “If they made it, so can I.” This program is the divinely inspired creation of a dynamic woman named Patricia Spence and should be replicated throughout the country. The premise of the program is for professional adults to come and share their life story of how they got to where they are today beginning with their own 5th grade experience.

After a rousing introduction (Pat’s a great hype person and would be great on a hip hop tour), I walked through the classroom door to the amazement of the students who marveled at my height. I began to address the class and share my story of growing up in Mission Hill, one of Boston’s most notorious housing projects. I spoke of avoiding the pitfalls that rob so many of their potential and shared how the 5th grade was the last time I was in the advanced class, because growing up no one explained to me that it was possible to be both smart and cool. I also shared my TPC principle’s of Talent, Purpose, Calling.

There was a young man in the class named Isaiah (not his real name) who aspired to be a pro ball player as did a few others. This was no surprise as we unfortunately know our young people overwhelmingly think that success is tied to a sports or entertainment career. This brazen young man sat straight up in his chair and stated to me that he thought he could beat me in a game of one on one. Immediately his class mates erupted in laughter and riddled him with jokes and comments about how I would kill him. Even the administrator who was present at the time mentioned that I was at least 4 feet taller. Isaiah’s countenance changed and his body language reflected the loss of confidence. I sprang into action and came to his defense. I told him that it was great that he thought he could beat me in a game of basketball. I told him that he set his bar of success high, he thought of me as the ultimate challenge. I then followed up with these words: “Isaiah, it doesn’t matter what others think about your goals and dreams. What matters most is what you believe and if you think you can beat me, don’t let others discourage you.” I could see the rush of confidence return.

How many of us can relate to what Isaiah experienced? Or perhaps your words discouraged someone else from pursuing their dream. At the conclusion of my talk, the principal asked if I wouldn’t mind playing basketball with a few of the students in the gym. Though I was clearly not dressed to play, I said of course, because Isaiah would be one of the students who participated. Despite the odds being stacked against me (it was 3 on 1), I had a great time.

As for Isaiah, that young man got game! He displayed a variety of ball handling skills straight from the And 1 Mix Tour, along with a consistent jump shot from 15 feet. Imagine if he came to the gym having the last words spoken to him be the jokes and comments made by his fellow classmates at the thought of him beating me and I didn’t pick him back up. I think the game would have turned out differently.

As a coach, I often remind the athletes in my program that in order for us to achieve our goals, we have to have a strong belief in what we think about ourselves, despite what the critics say. This season we were chosen to finish 7th in the pre-season polls. However, to date we are off to a 2-0 start. Here’s hoping we keep believing in the powerful words within that say we can become Champions.

Tony Price is a collegiate athletics administrator and head basketball coach with over 20 years experience as an athlete and instructor. His unique perspective on sports and society are also featured on his blog, “The Darker Shade of Sports,” www.darkershadeofsports.com.


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November 23rd, 2008 at 8:50 pm SweetSis says:

Good for you. Good for Isaiah. This is a great story with a great moral as always. Thanks, Tony!

November 23rd, 2008 at 9:10 pm RedRazor says:

I want to shake your hand one day man. Keep doin right.

November 23rd, 2008 at 9:16 pm SweetSis says:

Ah thats sweet Red. You know SweetSis likes everybody to be sweet.

November 23rd, 2008 at 9:21 pm RedRazor says:

I’m striving to be a good man like Tony. Then maybe you’ll give me some play. LOL.

November 24th, 2008 at 12:20 am Jallisa Lareaux says:

Patricia Spence’s program sounds amazing. Check out the website. Kudos on your great work Tony.

November 24th, 2008 at 12:39 am Mr.Fantastic says:

Sounds like a well motivated program!

November 24th, 2008 at 12:53 am SMARTA$$ says:

i remember watching the And 1 mixtapetour everyday ha ha

November 24th, 2008 at 2:10 am lilmamma86 says:

Good job Isaiah!

November 24th, 2008 at 2:15 am nicq says:

wish i had a coach like u!

November 24th, 2008 at 10:44 am Ashley says:

People don’t realize that the power of words is a strong one that can stick with you forever. Thank you for always being so positive and showing us all how that benefits the world.

November 24th, 2008 at 12:10 pm Kellie Tucker says:

I would love to be involved with something like this we really need to reach the kids anyway we can

November 24th, 2008 at 12:11 pm Kellie Tucker says:

Yes we as adults have so much power over the kids but we don’t realize it. their self esteem and confidence we can help them

November 24th, 2008 at 12:12 pm lolalove says:

God will continue to bless yoU!

November 24th, 2008 at 12:13 pm Ingrid says:

Talent, Purpose, Calling.
I love that I will pass that on most definitely

November 24th, 2008 at 12:25 pm Onyx Dreams says:

Isiah got skills!
But I agree it is so important for kids to know they have other options. How about owning the team!

November 24th, 2008 at 4:21 pm heatmizer says:

You are my new hero

November 24th, 2008 at 5:41 pm Freddy's dead says:

If every child had a big brother, friend, uncle or pop that was positive in their lives how much better would the state of our black men be today?

November 24th, 2008 at 6:48 pm Julia says:

inspirational!

November 24th, 2008 at 7:06 pm Tony Price says:

Words are building blocks for everyone young and old,and we’d be wise to choose them carefully when we speak, you never fully understand the impact of how what you say to others can impact their life, I’m fortunate to work with young people everyday, so I experience the direct effects of words on a daily basis. Thank you to all who shared positive words on this post!Happy Thanksgiving

November 24th, 2008 at 7:35 pm Stephanie says:

Your words are always so inspiring.

November 24th, 2008 at 9:36 pm Elsa Harkins says:

Stop flirtin Red :)

November 25th, 2008 at 10:25 am Nappy Native says:

You have a great sense of knowing how to reach these kids that is a gift

November 25th, 2008 at 1:31 pm Jessica Hubbard says:

If kids could learn the balance of confidence not cockiness it would go a long way!

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