LIFESTYLE/POLITICS/RELATIONSHIPS

FINDING MY OBAMA

I want a Barack Obama! After hearing his speech the other night I realized how much I love Black men with all their unexpressed pain and imperfections. I Love them ALL. They are so strong, tenacious and talented, some of which is unrealized. Sometimes Black men don’t see their full potential and that is why the Black woman is here…to love them so unconditionally that they see themselves through our eyes, support, and desire for them to be their best (thank you Michelle Obama for showing me that).

I have to admit that there have been times that I have not always been as supportive and loving as I probably could be. Okay, it was just those few times when they’ve made me so mad I wanted to scratch out their eyeballs. Probably because I know what they are truly capable of, and men like Obama have raised the bar. There is really no excuse at this point for a Black man, because Barack has made it very clear that the Black man can do anything…anything… I mean anything. So, I should not ever hear again that a Black man can’t.

Several times while watching the speech I thought, “I love that man.” Sorry Michelle. I realized that it wasn’t really him, but all that he represents. A strong Black man who defies the odds while being a man of character living his full potential. I realized that if I put my glasses on and take off my shades I might be able to recognize a mini Barack when he strolls pass me.

Truth Be Told… Black women should all look for men of character with potential for greatness. We can work harder to see the potential in Black men who are doing their best.

So this blog is written for all the unnoticed Barack Obama’s in the world. The brothers who are single dads, committed fathers, loving husbands, doing the right thing, working everyday, keeping their word, living their passion and making a difference in the world. Here is to all the brothers who are doing their thing and doing their best. Yes, I know…. I know…. we shouldn’t praise brothers on the things that they should do. Well why the hell not? Here’s to the other beautiful Black men of the world and all the Barack Obamas in the making. Keep going, don’t quit! I just want you to know that I see you. I appreciate you and if I could hold all of your heads to my bosom and tell you that I love you without you getting all turned on I would.

Perhaps if we continue to praise and acknowledge the good ones, somehow the ones that are a work in progress will see what they need to do. It’s been said that what we focus on grows…expands…multiplies…something like that. Let the Barack Search begin.

Remember… It’s Always Love.

ReNina Minter is a former elementary school teacher who followed her passion and earned a Masters in Clinical Psychology. Minter is now a Certified Life Coach. Check out her website atwww.CoachReNina.com. Her editorials are exclusive to UTC.


Email This Post Email This Post

Leave a Comment

Comments

August 29th, 2008 at 10:43 pm Patrice Levin says:

Many unnoticed Obamas out there that must be celebrated. I don’t know about celebrating the underachiever though. But the unoticed “mini Obamas” deserve praise.

August 29th, 2008 at 11:08 pm SweetSis says:

She’s baaa-aaack.

August 30th, 2008 at 12:36 am RedRazor says:

A good look. Thank you.

August 30th, 2008 at 7:18 am Sara Smiles says:

I’ve got my Obama :)

August 30th, 2008 at 8:43 am Darryl M. Bell says:

Good piece Sister ReNina!
I have lost count of the number of women who said, if they were Michelle, after watching Obama’s speech, they would have said, Joe Biden, America, Denver, sorry, Barack and I have to go! We have “bidnezz” to handle! :-)

August 30th, 2008 at 9:28 am UncleD says:

Every brother ain’t a Barack. He’s raised the bar for himself not for the rest of us. Every man is an individual not to be held up to anyone else. That is our God-given promise. If black women are going to start using him as a barometer we’re in more trouble that we already in together.
Some brothers work with their hands and will never see the inside of The Illiad. Some brothers smoke and drink and get their party on. Some brothers done time and are just trying to get their mind right again.
These are not Baracks. They will never reach that so-called raised bar. But they are still good black men for some black woman out there if she can get her eyes to street level and TRULY look in front of her.

August 30th, 2008 at 11:49 am Regina Holloway says:

LOL @ Darryl Bell.

August 30th, 2008 at 12:31 pm ReNina Minter says:

@UncleD I hear you but I want to reiterate that I when I speak of the bar being raised I am not talking about job title or status. I am talking about seeking a man of character, a man who is family oriented, doing his best, and living his passion. He could be a plumber, a teacher, a student, a former inmate who is starting all over again. I agree that we as women need to look at every man as an individual, but there is nothing wrong with wanting our brothers to BE their best. I wrote this for ALL my brothers at every level of life. I again want to say that I appreciate you…ALL of you from the man that works with his hands to the one who is still in school…keep doing your thing! I meant what I said about the “bosom” thing. lol

August 30th, 2008 at 2:18 pm pmatters says:

Amen to looking for a man who has the potential for greatness. That is what I am looking for, for sure.

August 30th, 2008 at 4:47 pm Elsa Harkins says:

Although Lisa ain’t lyin, he had to do what he had to do.
I don’t fault him one bit.
He’ll be able to do much more inside than outside.

August 30th, 2008 at 5:29 pm BlackWomenBlowTheTrumpet.blogspot.com says:

Hello there! {waves}

I haven’t been by here in quite a bit!

This has been quite a week, hasn’t it??

I must say that Barack Obama is not the epitome of a black man… he has spent his entire campaign run appeasing white people and allowing his wife to be attacked and vilified… a TRUE brotha would have handled that foolishness skillfully but forcefully.

I am happy that he is the nominee but I hope that black boys are not looking up to this black man with AWE who had to convince white America that he promised to be a ‘good little negro’ in order to reach his aspirations.

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa

August 30th, 2008 at 7:51 pm Jalissa Lareaux says:

I luv my brothas, Obamas to Tookies, to Snoops to Colins, I love ‘em all and pray for ‘em all every nite.

August 30th, 2008 at 9:14 pm nu yawk says:

brothas can’t compete that dude ain’t real! he’s like the iimage they put out we cant fade it

August 30th, 2008 at 10:07 pm FURIOUS STYLES says:

THANX FOR THE SALUTE SISTER MINTER.

August 30th, 2008 at 11:50 pm Very Veronica says:

Ditto ReNina

August 31st, 2008 at 4:07 am Ronda says:

Men and women both are looking for Obama. Men for the inner. Women for the everything. :) It’s positive, my people. Don’t hate.

August 31st, 2008 at 10:18 am XOXOX says:

My Mother always said ‘I’m not going to praise you for not doing drugs or staying out all night. You’re not supposed to do it anyway. I’ll parise you when you do something more than expected.’
I believe in that.
So brothahs, step up.

August 31st, 2008 at 10:41 am AfroDaddy says:

Well stated as usual. You’re doing great work here and you make us proud. Keep it up black woman!

August 31st, 2008 at 2:34 pm nicq says:

I am with Uncle D on this one..do not expect me to be Barack…because im not running for president lol

August 31st, 2008 at 3:00 pm lilmamma86 says:

Girl at first i was like i want me an Obama too..but i need me a thug to work it..OKAY!!!!!!!!!! LOL

August 31st, 2008 at 5:28 pm Mr.Fantastic says:

How come all women now say they want an OBAMA like man…yall dont know how he is relationship wise lol

August 31st, 2008 at 6:23 pm just2bee says:

ain’t had a sexy president ever!

August 31st, 2008 at 6:24 pm Kettle Blk says:

barack can’t be everything ya’ll too much pressure!

September 1st, 2008 at 12:11 pm tamaratgreg says:

Girl, no need to hold the brothas to your bosom, you turned them on with your words. Great piece.

September 1st, 2008 at 12:52 pm PATRICK LOO says:

Thanks for the encouraging words, Renina.

LilMama - You need to read a book.

September 1st, 2008 at 2:21 pm ReNina Minter says:

@BlackWomenTrumpet- Seek help for your issues with Black Men

@XOXOX- Positive reinforcement is where you focus on the behavior that you want to continue, which includes acknowledgement and sometimes praise. No disrespect to our mothers but there isn’t enough positive reinforcement in the black community.

@Mr. Fantastic- When you choose a man/women of character it’s more than likely that they will show up that way in a relationship.

September 7th, 2008 at 9:43 pm BlackWomenBlowTheTrumpet.blogspot.com says:

@ Renina

I don’t have issues with black men…

I simply know when I see political kowtowing!

I wrote a post titled, “Do We Need A Black President With No Bravery?” to explore the way that Obama had to be “marketed” to white audiences.

Those who don’t put Obama on a pedastal are able to see his flaws clearly ….and THAT doesn’t reflect any “issues with men” as much as it demonstrates an understanding of the dangers of messiah representation that black people have condoned for much too long.

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!
Lisa

September 9th, 2008 at 10:51 am Renyna Smith says:

He has definitely raised the bar. Wonderful man!

Renyna Smith (also pronounced Re-Nina)

Related Material

Related Posts

Tag Cloud

Archival

Blog Archives by Month

Other UTC Blogs