Urban Thought Collective

Oh boy! I think I started something by posting those questions from “The Cookie Lady” last week. Before they made it online, she had a brand new set of questions that she wanted me to answer. LOL! The truth of the matter is that since the very beginning of our relationship she and I have had what we call the Question(s) of the Day (QOTD). Each day while we are at our respective jobs, she and I email or text each other a series of questions. Nothing is off limits. We’ve talked about previous relationships, fears, dreams, finances, and definitely sex. It has been a great method for getting to know each other.

With these questions, I am letting you get to know me just a little better. Opening this window into my life and relationship is supposed to inspire a dialogue about relationships in general. If you have any topics that you want me to expound upon, please feel free to let me know.

Here we go…

No couple is perfect. What do you and your lady argue about?

Honestly, we don’t argue much but when we do, it is about why I don’t initiate more and how she feels like she has to pull things out of me at times.

What’s your favorite quote?

“Just add water to her armpits and you can make pancakes!” – My homie, Demetria

What do you think makes you a man, is it age, career goals, what you’ve learned from mistakes?

I think a man is made from his experiences, life lessons learned, and most importantly how he relates to the world. Is he autonomous or dependent?

How do you express love?

I try to express love verbally by letting you know how I feel, physically by being affectionate, and by being there for my significant other.

Is it different than how women express love?

I know for a fact that I am not as vocal as most women are or would like their man to be.

How are you and your lady compatible? Not compatible?

We are compatible because we both have similar personalities, we like to have fun, and we share a love of family, music, movies and food. Some of the ways we are not compatible is that our personalities are so similar that we often clash. Like I mentioned before, I am less vocal than she would like about showing love.

What do you think is the biggest difference between men and women?

I think women have a desire to be wanted and men have a desire to be needed.

How are WE alike?

See compatible answer.

Are you a morning or night person?

I’m more of a night person than morning but if you want to catch me at my best see me mid-afternoon.

Ready for football? Who’s your team?

Yes, I’m ready for football. I actually have two teams since I moved all over when I was little. Seattle Seahawks and Philadelphia Eagles.

Do women have to give back gifts like rings and bracelet once the couple breaks up as a general rule?

No. If it is a gift, it is yours regardless of the reason for breakup.

Celebrity crush?

Alicia Keys

Why did you start your blog?

I had a couple friends with blogs that were pretty popular. I loved how they were able to dialogue with people about current events and various topics. Thought it would be fun to try. I only posted about four times in the first six months though. Once I realized people were reading it, I got into telling stories about my misadventures in dating.

Vincent Slaughter is writer from Atlanta who describes himself as grown-ass man. loving son. faithful mate. flawed. occasionally funny. southern gentleman. humble, yet cocky. gemini. sometimes selfish. forgiving, but not forgetful. thankful. optimistic. thinker. doer. believer. reader. writer. a work in progress. learner. Above all, human. His thoughts on love and relationships also featured on www.skoolboisplayground.blogspot.com.