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What’s In A Word?

You remember “Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me?”

Well, words may not hurt your feelings, but if you ask Don Imus, words can hurt your career and cost you a job.

If you ask Jesse Jackson, words can hurt your name and cost you the respect of your constituents.

Or if you ask Ludacris, words can hurt your pending endorsement deal and, as of late, friendship with the 2008 presumptive Democratic nominee.

If you ask the family of Megan Meir, words will do more than hurt feelings but they can lead a teenage girl to commit suicide and cost her family immeasurable pain, not to mention the case brought against Lori Drew, whose words it is claimed led to the teen’s suicide based on a bogus MYSPACE entry.

And we all have been recently involved in discussion and dialogue over whether or not Jeremiah Wright was right in what he said!

On the flip side, if you ask a Dr. Martin Luther King , words can lead a nation into a movement that is still impacting the world “I have a dream…”

Recently, I taught a class on the Power of the Tongue. We looked at several case studies and scriptures that pointed us to the fact that one of the smallest muscles in our body has the ability to do so much damage, yet the same muscle can do so much good. Our words can cause irreparable damage to the mind and soul of a person or build internal confidence and strength in that same person. Our words can start street fights and wars or bring peace to chaos. This is a lot of power!

In this age of YouTube, Myspace, Tagged, Camera Phones, miniature digital recording devices, palm pilots, text messaging, instant messaging and so much more, our words have greater reach, thereby increasing their power. In less than 3 minutes, our words can be sent across the globe and affect people we will never meet in person.

Admittedly, I’ve said many things I regret and have had to return to the person(s) with whom I spoke to seek their forgiveness. Likewise I’ve said many things that encourage people to go on and do great things in life. One of the reasons I write and speak publicly is in hopes that my words will be a positive influence and do some good in this life.

UTC reader, with all this power, what are you doing with your words?

Building or destroying? Strengthening or weakening? Affecting or infecting? Killing or creating? Something or nothing? What are you doing with your words?

Doctor, Lawyer, Coach, Teacher, Preacher, Writer, Singer, Rapper, News reporter, Poet Mom, Dad, Friend, Confidant, Politician, DJ, and the list can go on, what are we doing with your words?

The creator has given us great power with the tongue and our words; and we have responsibility over them. I can’t tell you how, when or where to use this power, I am only responsible for what I say; but it is my desire to be a master of my words. And today my thoughts are on His words: “Set a guard over my mouth and watch over my lips.” Psalm 141:3

Najuma Smith is a preacher, world traveler, writer, and proud parent. She currently serves as the full-time Sr. Pastor of St. James AME Church in Los Angeles. Unapologetically saved and full of purpose, she enjoys sharing words of encouragement with anyone who will listen, bringing a fresh look at life in light of the Word of God. Her collection of motivations and observations are exclusive to Urban Thought Collective. Visit her at www.myspace.com/revjuju.


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August 3rd, 2008 at 10:04 pm Tawnie says:

I love this! Thank you Reverend Najuma.

August 3rd, 2008 at 10:05 pm Tawnie says:

BTW, #1 :)

August 3rd, 2008 at 11:02 pm SweetSis says:

I’ve always been told that bible passage growing up. It’s like, in my DNA at this point.

August 4th, 2008 at 12:15 am Binta Rohan says:

You are so right Rev Smith about the frivilousness of our communications in this digital age. All the more reason to harness the power of the tongue and guard your thoughts with care. A great reminder.

August 4th, 2008 at 9:07 am Jane Kennedy says:

This was a great blog! I really agree with this what are we doing with our words?? Very powerful indeed

August 4th, 2008 at 9:09 am Nicole Malave says:

I would have loved to be in that “Power of the Tongue” class!!! my goodness we think so little about the impact of our thoughts to words to action!

August 4th, 2008 at 9:10 am Lottie Markus says:

“Set a guard over my mouth and watch over my lips.” Psalm 141:3

I WILL HAVE TO PRACTICE THIS ONE FOR SURE!!!!

August 4th, 2008 at 9:23 am Ashley says:

Words of positivity are all I try to use in my life. No matter how strong you are words can hurt.

August 4th, 2008 at 9:26 am doumind says:

perfect blog and very thought provoking

August 4th, 2008 at 9:29 am Jessica Hubbard says:

that myspace suicide thing is just too sad. these young girls with low self esteem and every little slight by a peer can really send them into depression. i wish these bullies knew how much their words really hurt

August 4th, 2008 at 9:32 am Tina says:

Wonderful words Pastor Smith. I still remember being teased as a child. Those words really do stick with you. I guess it is all in how you let it affect you.

August 4th, 2008 at 9:52 am thelma says:

Love this!

August 4th, 2008 at 10:18 am culturepop says:

Powerful much needed message for our community, Reverend. Thank you!

August 4th, 2008 at 10:26 am Jessica Hubbard says:

ohh… that i have a dream speech still gives me chills!!

August 4th, 2008 at 10:38 am Soothsayer says:

Wow I really enjoyed this letter. And you said it perfect about the fact that we have all of these devices and ways to reach people so it is more important than ever to watch what you say

August 4th, 2008 at 10:46 am Gerald Johnson says:

How about we all just speak the TRUTH and let the chips fall where they may?

August 4th, 2008 at 10:56 am Najee Ali says:

Preach Sistah ! Can a brother come to your church? lol

August 4th, 2008 at 1:52 pm Nu yawk says:

that’s real spit

August 4th, 2008 at 1:55 pm Kettle Blk says:

I’m still mad at Luda!

August 4th, 2008 at 2:46 pm buttabrown says:

Tell it Reverend! When momma said ‘hush yo mouf’ she meant it! LOL

August 4th, 2008 at 5:41 pm Jenafa Duvall says:

I definitely need to take heed to this one. Words do hurt. Or heal. Or inspire. It does a lot! Thanks for the positivity

August 4th, 2008 at 5:50 pm black mary says:

This needs to go to all the rappers talkin down to the women!

August 4th, 2008 at 6:00 pm DA UNDERDOG says:

@black mary not just the rappers but ANYONE that wants to put down our women, children, men - anyone! we can’t believe all this stuff people say about us! we need nothing but the good vibes and stuff ya’ll for real

August 4th, 2008 at 6:02 pm DON JUAN says:

lemme 2nd this emotion

August 4th, 2008 at 6:57 pm heatmizer says:

I need to start a keepsakes book with all the utc blogs i’ve printed over the last few weeks…this goes in the book of do right!

August 4th, 2008 at 7:01 pm Tilane Jones says:

You are on the money with this entry. Helping us stay uplifted and positive. Wonderful.

August 5th, 2008 at 1:02 pm chica22 says:

Amen to this!

August 5th, 2008 at 5:29 pm follow da leader says:

this is something everyone should read very key stuff here

August 5th, 2008 at 6:48 pm Anonymous says:

A friend of mine and I are in a dispute over something that she said to me. It happened sometime ago, and another situation occured that caused this incident to be revisited. We are both older now and more mature and I told her the same thing I told her then, what she said was hurtful. I don’t think she is really getting the power of the tongue. Whomever stared that silly stick and stones, didn’t know what they were talking about. Although the words were uttered sometime ago, they were hurtful and never forgotten.

My people, please be mindful that you might not remember what you said, but the person you spoke those words to will. It might be years later before they may realize it or you’ll know, but they will remember your words.

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