Urban Thought Collective

Is it necessary for TMZ to catch a glimpse of Beyoncé’s rumored huge diamond ring to prove that a secret wedding took place? Does it really matter if they’re married or not? Fans, including myself, have been waiting six years for either of the two music stars to substantiate their relationship by giving an exclusive interview to anybody who can get them to dish the details. It hasn’t happened.

Yet, that is the beauty within the gift they have given us.

Other than the few bars Jay drops every now and then, and Bey’s full-length songs like “Crazy in Love,” “Dangerously in Love,” and “Flaws and All,” we’re forced to observe this couple from a distance.

Here is what I see.

I see two individuals who have discovered their passion, their gifts and are sharing it with the world. And as they birth another creative venture, more inspiration develops, more ideas flutter their minds and more projects are birthed, with the world in awe of how each of them continue to push the envelope and redefine what urban culture is. They are living their dream. They are living our dream – to discover what our talents are and be free to express it in a way that brings us joy and inspire the people around us. At least, that’s my dream.

As they continued to move forward on their journey, faced with new challenges and amazed at how life is unfolding right before their eyes, they came upon one another. I’m assuming, after dating for several years now, they’ve learned some sort of balancing act that allows two hectic schedules to coexist with a relationship. They do what works for them.

With the rumor of marriage swirling around, do you think Beyoncé is going to stop recording and filming in order to assume the traditional housewife role? Is Jay-Z going to stop-short on the J-Hotel project, so he can be available to take out garbage and mow the lawn?

I doubt it. But even if they do, I ain’t mad at them! After all, how many of us can say we actually lived our dream, surpassed it and reached a whole new plateau of success and fulfillment that our minds couldn’t even conceive from day one? AND you find somebody who genuinely loves you and doesn’t want to take that from you!

If they want to play around with gender roles, let them because, for me, it won’t overshadow the example they’ve given to us about new age love. They’ve created a space that allows each person to be creative while the love they share serves as a support system. I’m sure it’s heaven for them to have somebody who understands the business, as well as the drive and slight obsession to out-do one’s self.

Some of us believe you have to make sacrifices to be in a relationship. Sacrifice is a deceiving word. It absolves you from any accountability and puts it on your partner. You didn’t make a sacrifice. You made a choice. You chose to give up who you are and/or your dream in order to be with that person. The blessing is you can always make new choices.

Jay and Bey are showing us that we don’t have to “sacrifice” our dreams in order to be in a relationship. There is somebody in this world whose path is running parallel to ours, offering us the opportunity to walk this walk together.

I’m dreaming of finding that one day!

I think Jay is dying to talk about the relationship! Beyoncé is a Virgo, and as a Virgo, I can say we know how to keep our trap shut. We don’t tell nobody everything. But, Jay? He’s bursting at the seams. I picture him randomly roaming down the aisles at Walmart singing, “Lovin’ you is easy cause your beautiful…”

Envisioning you with much love, light and fulfillment. See you next week.

Yaminah Ahmad is editor-in-chief of The Atlanta Voice and contributing editor to Collective Voices, a newspaper published by the non-profit, SisterSong: Women of Color Reproductive Health Collective. She can be reached at missyaminah@gmail.com.